Dr Alok Kanojia (HealthyGamerGG) is a psychiatrist and co-founder of the mental health coaching company 'Healthy Gamer', which aims to help with modern stressors, such as social media, video games, and online dating. 0:00 What Does Dr K Do? 03:30 Dr K's Background 06:08 The TikTok-ification Of Mental Health 08:46 Dr K On Men's Mental Health 11:30 Women's Mental Health Issues 14:11 How To Understand Yourself 17:30 Are We Addicted To Self-Development? 18:54 Does Talking About Problems Make Them Worse? 23:32 How Society Promotes Deficiencies 25:19 The Role Of Dopamine In Happiness 27:55 What Serotonin Really Does 29:32 Why Couples Get Comfortable And Have Less Sex 31:29 How To Find Love 34:43 How Stress Affects Your Libido 36:29 The Science Behind Attraction 41:04 Should You Plan Sex? 42:31 How Overexposure Affects Our Emotions 44:40 How To Keep Sex Exciting When It Feels Like A Chore 48:11 The Dangers Of Devices In Relationships 53:46 Are Gen Z More Connected Than Ever? 55:48 Are People Becoming More Narcissistic? 1:02:03 The Epidemic Of Loneliness 1:04:26 The Power Of Self-Realisation 1:09:40 How Your Beliefs Shape Your Reality 1:13:57 Are You Suppressing Your Emotions? 1:17:04 How To Process Emotions Effectively 1:22:59 The Science Of Yoga As Therapy 1:27:12 How Trauma Affects Your Ability To Succeed 1:32:19 How Parenting With Autonomy Creates Better Kids 1:33:46 How To Become A Self-Starter 1:35:06 Where Steven's Drive Comes From 1:42:04 How Others See Steven 1:43:36 How To Fix Trauma Instead Of Covering It Up 1:50:18 How Do You Heal From Trauma? 1:55:42 The Journey Of Healing 2:03:20 What Is Mukti? 2:04:34 How To Listen To Yourself With A Busy Schedule 2:05:28 How To Achieve Lasting Happiness 2:08:12 The Best Morning Routines For Calm 2:10:49 How To Break A Habit 2:12:58 Why Keeping A Diary Improves Your Life 2:14:20 What Are People Really Looking For? 2:15:30 How Young People Can Find Their Purpose 2:18:13 What Is A Quarter-Life Crisis? 2:20:35 The Most Important Questions To Ask Yourself 2:29:35 How Steven Can Improve As A Podcaster 2:31:59 The Final Question For The Guest You can order Dr Alok’s book, ‘How to Raise a Healthy Gamer’, here: https://amzn.to/3V5jfLV To learn more from Dr Alok in his Guide to Mental Health: https://www.healthygamer.gg/about/guide Follow Dr Alok: Twitter - https://bit.ly/3V59nS4 Instagram - https://bit.ly/49GFrQN Get your hands on the brand new Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://appurl.io/iUUJeYn25v 🌟 Get access to exclusive Diary of a CEO content: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGq-a57w-aPwyi3pW7XLiHw/join Sponsors: http://joinzoe.com with an exclusive code CEO10 for 10% off
内容量很大的一期访谈，嘉宾 Dr. K 非常有料，他的 YouTube 上有很多不错的内容，可以一并看下。
本期访谈探讨的是比较 Fundamental 的话题：孤独感、上瘾、目标感的缺失这些现代人普遍会遇到的问题。信息量非常大，我完整地听了一遍，将音频 Transcribe 成文本后又读了好几遍。以下是压缩之后，我觉得挺值得记录的一些点：
- 多关注自己，创造与自己独处的时间与空间，多与自己沟通，更多地了解自己。不要被多巴胺诱导，过多地关注外部世界，玩身份游戏。
- 把每一次负面情绪、积极情绪当作了解自己的机会：为什么我会难过，为什么我会做这件事，驱使我做一件事的动力是什么。
- 多巴胺会带来短期快感；血清素会带给你幸福感、满足感和宁静感；催产素可以增进亲密关系、信任和同理心。多巴胺与血清素的数量成反比。
- 沉迷电子设备会带来孤独感、疏离感、影响两性关系和与自己的连接。
- 情绪共鸣（比如同时感到惊喜、害怕等）可以拉近人与人之间的联系。
- 自信源于内在（基于对自己的了解），自负来自外在（基于外界的反馈）。发自内心的信念会影响大脑，进而影响行为，别人能分辨内在的自信和外在的自负。如果我们失去与自己的连接，就失去了自信的基础。
- 情绪跟身体的关系密切，情绪会反映到身体，身体也可以影响情绪。
- 无法获得持久的幸福很重要的一点是，与外部同频而不是与内部同频。