Are you frustrated that the world wants you to pick one thing, because you want to do them all?
The problem is thinking short term — assuming that if you don’t do all the things now, they won’t happen.
The solution is to think long term. Do just one thing for a few years, then another for a few years, then another.
不太同意这个观点，一件事做几年，还是太长了，尤其是当别人都在做「看起来很有前途」的事情的时候，会顶不住诱惑的。可以结合 Tiny Experiments 书中提到的方法：以好奇心为驱动，通过设定有明确行动和时限的承诺（微小实验），将不确定性转化为探索的机会。再根据实验结果选择「坚持」（Persist）、「暂停」（Pause）或者 「调整」（Pivot）。
这里也涉及到「尝试」的技巧，简单来说，要拿出一个 "MVP" 作为离场证明。尝试的艺术，就是「带着痛感的产出」。
这篇短文以一个引人入胜的个人经历，巧妙地阐述了一个深刻的道理：有时，过度的努力和压力并不能带来显著的额外收益，反而可能牺牲了体验和可持续性。作者通过自行车骑行的例子，生动地对比了“全力以赴”与“轻松应对”两种状态下的结果，并发现两者在效率上差异微小，但在个人感受上却天壤之别。文章的亮点在于其反直觉的结论——“96%的结果可以通过轻松的方式获得”，这促使读者反思自己在工作和生活中的“努力”是否真的高效，以及是否被不必要的压力所累。它提醒我们，在追求目标时，或许可以尝试放松心态，以更从容的方式去实现，从而获得更好的过程体验和同样令人满意的结果。
Steve Pavlina 的“30天走向成功”提供了一个简单而强大的个人成长策略。通过将新习惯或改变视为一个为期30天的“试用期”，他巧妙地降低了人们对长期承诺的心理障碍。文章不仅阐述了这一方法的理论基础，更通过作者亲身实践的丰富案例，生动地展示了其在饮食、锻炼乃至生活习惯养成方面的有效性。这种“短期承诺，长期受益”的理念，为那些渴望改变却又畏惧开始的人们，提供了一条切实可行的路径。
这篇文章深入探讨了成为早起者的实用策略，挑战了传统的睡眠观念。作者通过个人经历，提出了一个结合了生物节律和固定作息的创新方法，即“困了才睡，定时起床”。这种方法不仅提高了睡眠效率，还带来了更高的生产力和幸福感。对于那些渴望改变睡眠习惯、提升生活质量的人来说，这篇文章提供了宝贵的见解和可操作的建议。
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书荒时，可以来这里逛逛，看看大佬们的推荐书单
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罗永浩今天发布会的神来之笔：跟豆包吵架。 call back ok哥，已成经典。
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老罗跟豆包吵架，蛮好笑的，原来豆包已经这么强大了，一般人真吵不过。
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I've never felt this much behind as a programmer. The profession is being dramatically refactored as the bits contributed by the programmer are increasingly sparse and between. I have a sense that I could be 10X more powerful if I just properly string together what has become available over the last ~year and a failure to claim the boost feels decidedly like skill issue. There's a new programmable layer of abstraction to master (in addition to the usual layers below) involving agents, subagents, their prompts, contexts, memory, modes, permissions, tools, plugins, skills, hooks, MCP, LSP, slash commands, workflows, IDE integrations, and a need to build an all-encompassing mental model for strengths and pitfalls of fundamentally stochastic, fallible, unintelligible and changing entities suddenly intermingled with what used to be good old fashioned engineering. Clearly some powerful alien tool was handed around except it comes with no manual and everyone has to figure out how to hold it and operate it, while the resulting magnitude 9 earthquake is rocking the profession. Roll up your sleeves to not fall behind.
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程序员这个职业正在经历一场「9级大地震」式的暴力重构。
曾经我们引以为傲的代码贡献正变得稀疏，取而代之的是一个全新的、庞大的抽象层：Agent、Prompt、Context、MCP、各种工具链。
我们需要在传统的工程思维之上，去构建一套全新的心智模型，去驾驭这些充满随机性、甚至不可解释的 AI 模型。
所以青春的遗憾又是什么? - eclipse 的回答
是酷狗音乐方大同『特别的人』里的热评 看一次哭一次。
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所以青春的遗憾又是什么?
在知乎看到的一个帖子，顺便把图片转成了文本
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月事那天不小心漏了一点在裤子上，没有像其他男生那样从背后指指点点，而是悄悄脱下外套叫我系在腰间。这个人就是我同桌。平时的他……特别笋。特别特别笋。早上没吃饭，偷我的包子豆浆；偷偷吧，还把包子皮还给我；上课吃辣条，撕拉油溅我一身；偷偷把我买的可乐拧松，让汽跑掉；一吵架就拆我鞋带；埋头在胳膊上吹出“嘤嘤嘤”的声音，然后捏着鼻子故意说你放屁了好好臭啊；青春期脸上爱出油，他拿了个矿泉水瓶子给我让我装点回去炒菜；当年老师严禁上网打游戏，他每天中午都要偷偷跑去网玩他那个什么梦幻，跟我说有中午的那个时间，吃完饭之后去网吧正好可以把20个师门任务做完。用一个当下比较时尚的词来形容他的话，他就是一个“时间管理大师”……但就是这么一个人，在我真正尴尬的时刻，破天荒的没有借机笑话我，反而若无其事的帮我遮盖了过去。也就是那时，我停止了对他的讨厌，对他开始重新认识。态度客观之后，我发现他其实还是有些优点的。比如，会主动帮班里换桶装水；比如，路上看到垃圾会顺手捡起来扔掉；又比如，有什么新奇小玩意，会第一个拿到学校来跟我分享；又又又比如，每次吵架引来老师，无论什么原因，他都会马上说是他的错；又又又比如，每当我考得不错的时候，他会打心眼替我高兴，请我吃烧串，或者喝可乐；又又又比如，每次吃烤串都让我先点菜；又又又又比如，他在课桌里放了两件外套，因为我有时会觉得教室里空调太冷但是又记不住带厚衣服；……
Jim Keller: The Future of Computing, AI, Life, and Consciousness | Lex Fridman Podcast #162
Jim Keller is a legendary microprocessor engineer, previously at AMD, Apple, Tesla, Intel, and now Tenstorrent. Please support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: - Athletic Greens: https://athleticgreens.com/lex and use code LEX to get 1 month of fish oil - Brooklinen: https://brooklinen.com and use code LEX to get $25 off + free shipping - ExpressVPN: https://expressvpn.com/lexpod and use code LexPod to get 3 months free - Belcampo: https://belcampo.com/lex and use code LEX to get 20% off first order EPISODE LINKS: Jim's Twitter: https://twitter.com/jimkxa Jim's Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jim_Keller_(engineer) Tenstorrent: https://www.tenstorrent.com/ PODCAST INFO: Podcast website: https://lexfridman.com/podcast Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2lwqZIr Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2nEwCF8 RSS: https://lexfridman.com/feed/podcast/ Full episodes playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLrAXtmErZgOdP_8GztsuKi9nrraNbKKp4 Clips playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLrAXtmErZgOeciFP3CBCIEElOJeitOr41 OUTLINE: 0:00 - Introduction 1:33 - Good design is both science and engineering 7:33 - Javascript 11:40 - RISC vs CISC 15:39 - What makes a great processor? 17:09 - Intel vs ARM 18:58 - Steve Jobs and Apple 21:36 - Elon Musk and Steve Jobs 27:21 - Father 31:03 - Perfection 37:18 - Modular design 42:52 - Moore's law 49:50 - Hardware for deep learning 56:44 - Making neural networks fast at scale 1:04:22 - Andrej Karpathy and Chris Lattner 1:08:36 - How GPUs work 1:12:43 - Tesla Autopilot, NVIDIA, and Mobileye 1:17:23 - Andrej Karpathy and Software 2.0 1:23:43 - Tesla Dojo 1:26:20 - Neural networks will understand physics better than humans 1:28:33 - Re-engineering the human brain 1:33:26 - Infinite fun and the Culture Series by Iain Banks 1:35:20 - Neuralink 1:40:43 - Dreams 1:44:37 - Ideas 1:54:49 - Aliens 1:59:46 - Jordan Peterson 2:04:44 - Viruses 2:07:52 - WallStreetBets and Robinhood 2:15:55 - Advice for young people 2:17:45 - Human condition 2:20:14 - Fear is a cage 2:25:04 - Love 2:31:27 - Regrets SOCIAL: - Twitter: https://twitter.com/lexfridman - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lexfridman - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LexFridmanPage - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lexfridman - Medium: https://medium.com/@lexfridman - Reddit: https://reddit.com/r/lexfridman - Support on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/lexfridman
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Lex 和 Jim Keller 的访谈中，后者提到的这个「组织管理理论」挺有意思的，Keller 解释说，随着公司规模扩大，为了避免错误，官僚体系（Order）会自然增加。
- X 轴：秩序（Order）。左边是 0（完全混乱），右边是无穷大（完全秩序）。
- Y 轴：生产力（Productivity）。
- 曲线走势：在完全混乱时，生产力为 0；随着秩序增加，生产力上升；但在达到某个顶点后，过度的秩序（官僚主义）会导致生产力下降，最终在完全秩序时回到 0。
- 结论：因为组织天然倾向于滑向“高秩序/低生产力”的一端，所以高效的领导者必须充当“混乱注入者”，把团队强行拉回到生产力最高点的那个“甜蜜点”。
这也可以解释为什么有些领导者会故意在公司内部制造“混乱”
The ONLY Way To Stop Procrastinating | Mel Robbins
Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — If you keep finding yourself stuck in that loop of stress and avoiding the things you know you need to do, WATCH THIS. I give you my tools for dealing with procrastination… I know they’ll work for you too. If you struggle with procrastination, you're not alone. Research from a PhD at the University of Calgary found that 80–95% of college students are procrastinators. There's also nothing wrong with you. You don't lack willpower, drive, and focus. It also has nothing to do with your work and your ability to get it done. If you beat yourself up for procrastinating, that ends now. And here's why: You're looking at procrastination wrong. Rather than a trait or sign of motivation, it's simply a habit. A habit that comes about in response to life stress. In this video, learn the only way you can break the habit of procrastination–for good. This simple 4-step strategy will help you stop procrastinating and in the process make you happier and less stressed. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for my weekly newsletter at https://www.melrobbins.com/newsletter — Looking for my books on Amazon? Here they are! High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/3372Rl9
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Mel Robbins(就是那个 The 5 Second Rule 和 The Let Them Theory 的作者)在本视频中通过心理学和神经科学的视角，颠覆了人们对拖延症的传统认知。她首先抛出了一个核心观点：你不是一个拖延者，你只是养成了一个拖延的习惯。这一区分至关重要，因为如果是性格缺陷，可能无法改变；但如果是习惯，就可以利用科学手段去打破。
拖延症与工作本身毫无关系，它的本质是一种压力释放机制（Stress Relief）。生活中的各种压力源——无论是人际关系冲突、家庭健康问题，还是财务危机——都会在潜意识中形成巨大的压力球。当你准备工作时，大脑感知到这种压力，并对那些具有挑战性的任务（如打重要电话）产生抗拒。为了逃避这种不适感，大脑会引导你去寻求即时的解脱，比如看猫咪视频或浏览无关信息。这种逃避行为虽然带来了暂时的轻松（奖赏），但随之而来的是自责，导致压力的进一步累积。
为了打破这一恶性循环，罗宾斯引入了习惯的三个组成部分：触发器（Trigger）、行为模式（Pattern）和奖赏（Reward）。在拖延症中，触发器永远是压力。既然我们无法彻底消除生活中的压力，唯一的解决之道就是改变回应压力的“行为模式”。她提出的具体方法是：当你意识到自己在逃避时，承认自己处于压力之中，然后倒数 5-4-3-2-1。这一简单的倒数动作能打断大脑的惯性思维，唤醒负责理智决策的前额叶皮层。紧接着，强迫自己只工作 5分钟。这利用了心理学原理：拖延的问题在于“开始”这一动作的阻力，而非工作本身。研究表明，一旦你跨过了开始的门槛，80%的人都会选择继续完成任务。
The Secret to Stopping Fear and Anxiety (That Actually Works) | Mel Robbins
Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Learn the secret to stopping fear, anxiety, and panic attacks. I'd tried tons of strategies to stop fear and none of them actually worked. I decided to create a new technique, combining the research-backed 5 Second Rule and the latest findings on the topics of fear and anxiety. When nothing else worked for me, this technique did. It allowed me to beat fear, anxiety, panic attacks, and negative thoughts–and as I shared it with others, it worked for them too. For the first time, I'm explaining it here. You can learn even more about this simple yet highly effective 3-step strategy for stopping fear and anxiety in my new book, The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence With Everyday Courage. To order the book, click here: http://amzn.to/2dGcSfN Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for my weekly newsletter at https://www.melrobbins.com/newsletter — Looking for my books on Amazon? Here they are! High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/3372Rl9
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这个 Topic 其实在作者 The 5 Second Rule 这本书中有提到过，这个视频又细化了下。
Robbins 强调了一个核心科学事实：恐惧和兴奋在生理状态上是完全相同的。无论是恐惧还是兴奋，身体都会经历心跳加速、出汗、皮质醇激增等“高唤醒”状态。唯一的区别在于大脑如何解释这种身体反应——是将其标记为“危险”（恐惧）还是“刺激”（兴奋）。因此，传统的建议如“冷静下来”或“积极思考”往往无效，因为要求身体从极度激动的“高唤醒状态”瞬间切换到放松的“低唤醒状态”是非常困难的，这就像试图用一块石头去拦停一辆高速行驶的火车，只会导致灾难。
为了解决这个问题，Robbins 提出了一种结合了“5秒法则”（The 5-Second Rule）和“锚定思维”（Anchor Thought）的策略。通过倒数 5-4-3-2-1，我们可以激活前额叶皮层，打断恐惧的惯性思维；紧接着，利用一个与当前情境相关的、积极的“锚定思维”来重新构建大脑的认知。这种方法并不试图消除身体的激动反应，而是顺势将其重新定义为“兴奋”。通过 Mel 自己在后台准备演讲时的亲身经历，以及她克服飞行恐惧的案例，视频生动地展示了如何利用这一技巧“欺骗”大脑，将恐惧转化为兴奋，从而夺回对行动的控制权。
8 Things To Tell Yourself Every Morning
Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — You can reprogram your mind for success. In today’s episode, Mel shows you how to start your day right, with 8 simple sentences that reset your mindset and rewire your brain for the day ahead. Every morning is an opportunity to take control of your thoughts and your focus. Don’t waste it. Using research and her own proven affirmations, Mel will teach you how to train your brain to see more opportunity, focus on the positive and get excited about your life again. Speak these 8 lines to yourself every morning, and over time you’ll become almost unrecognizable to yourself. These affirmations won’t just set the tone for your day. They’ll inspire you to: -Finally tackle the thing you’ve been avoiding for months -Expect good things and create more of them -Stay open and present -Notice opportunities you usually miss -Calm your morning anxiety -Move through the day with more confidence -Celebrate your effort and use it as fuel -Release the pressure to be perfect -Speak up, share your ideas, and stop shrinking yourself Mel also teaches you what she calls the most important skill she has ever learned: The ability to be in a good mood for no reason. Mel has spent years honing this skill and she says she owes her success to it. Today she is showing you how she rewired her brain to constantly default to a good mood (instead of a bad mood, which she did for years). Learn the 8 sentences that help you stay happy. Use these affirmations to help you control your mood and your mind. They are the positive morning motivation you need to spark self love, inspire discipline, and erase self doubt.Use these sentences to create a healthy mind, and create a fresh start every day. In less than 2 minutes, you can change how you start your day. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-324/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Welcome 01:48 Mantra #1: Today Is Going To Be A Great Day 9:22: Mantra #2: Something Cool Is Going To Happen For Me Today 19:22 Mantra #3: No Matter What Happens Today, I Can Handle It 29:21 Mantra #4: An Exciting New Chapter In My Life Is Starting Today 39:58 Mantra #5: I Need To Give Myself More Credit For How Hard I’m Trying 49:19 Mantra #6: I’m Allowed To Be A Work In Progress 52:23 Mantra #7: If I Keep Showing Up, Life Will Reward Me 55:30 Mantra #8: I Have An Important Contribution To Make To The World — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah
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顺着 The Let Them Theory，摸到了作者 Mel Robbins 的这个视频：8 Things To Tell Yourself Every Morning。在这期 Mel Robbins 的播客节目中，她分享了八句简单却极具力量的“早晨真言（Mantras）”，旨在帮助听众重新编程大脑，从默认的消极和焦虑模式转变为积极、坚韧和充满希望的状态。
视频的核心概念围绕着“网状激活系统”（Reticular Activating System, RAS）展开。Mel 用“绿色皮卡车”的例子生动地解释了 RAS 的过滤功能：如果你不告诉大脑什么是重要的（比如积极的事物），大脑就会将其过滤掉。但这八句话能充当新的指令，强迫大脑去寻找美好的一天、期待酷的事情发生，并确认自己有能力应对挑战。
这八句话涵盖了从设定当天的基调、缓解对未来的恐惧、自我同情到确认自我价值的方方面面。Mel 建议听众坚持练习 30 到 60 天，通过书写或朗读的方式，彻底重塑大脑的神经网络，让自己成为一个在任何境遇下都能保持韧性和希望的人。
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“今天会是美好的一天。”（Today is going to be a great day） 这句话的核心不在于盲目乐观，而在于“态度的选择权”。这是在告诉大脑：“无论发生什么，我有能力决定我的态度。”
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“今天会有很酷的事情发生在我身上。”（Something cool is going to happen for me today） 这句真言将生活变成了一场“寻宝游戏”。当大多数人醒来都在为可能发生的坏事做心理准备（Bracing for the worst）时，这句话创造了积极的期待（Anticipation）。当你期待好事发生时，你会敏锐地捕捉到那个许久未见的老友发来的短信，或者在工作中得到的一个小机会。它通过 RAS 机制，让你注意到原本可能会被忽视的小确幸。
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“无论发生什么，我都能搞定。”（No matter what happens today, I can handle it） 这是针对焦虑症患者最有力的一句话。焦虑的本质是对不确定性的恐惧，以及对自己应对能力的怀疑。这句真言直接挑战了这一核心恐惧。它并不承诺事情会一帆风顺，而是承诺无论事情多么糟糕，你都拥有应对的韧性。这是一种深层的自我赋能，让你从对未来的恐惧中收回力量，专注于当下的应对能力。
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“我要为我如此努力而给自己更多肯定。”（I need to give myself more credit for how hard I'm trying） 生活中的很多努力是隐形的：你为了早起做的挣扎、你即使心情不好依然礼貌回复邮件、你在崩溃边缘依然照顾好了孩子。Mel 强调，努力本身就值得被看见，即便结果尚未显现。如果你总是等待外界的表扬，你可能会等一辈子。通过这句话，你成为了自己最好的拉拉队长，这种自我认可会形成正向循环，让你更有动力坚持下去。
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“我允许自己是一个‘正在进行时’的作品。”（I'm allowed to be a work in progress） 这句真言是完美主义的解毒剂。它给了我们犯错的空间和成长的许可。
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“激动人心的人生新篇章从今天开始。”（An exciting new chapter in my life is starting today） 这是一个随时可以按下的“重启键”。很多人认为必须等到分手、毕业或搬家才能开始新篇章，但 Mel 提醒我们，只要你愿意，任何一个早晨都可以是新篇章的开始。
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“只要我坚持出现，生活就会奖赏我。”（If I keep showing up, life will reward me） 这是关于耐力（Stamina）的真言。很多时候，成功只是因为“没有放弃”。Mel 将其称为“做重复的动作（Doing the reps）”。
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“我对这个世界有重要的贡献要在这个世界做出。”（I have an important contribution to make to the world） 这是最深刻的一句。在这个拥有 80 亿人口的星球上，你是独一无二的——你的声音、你的故事、你的 DNA 无人能及。即使你觉得目前一事无成，你对他人的善意、你的微笑、你所传递的能量，都是对世界的贡献。这句话旨在唤醒你的自我价值感，消除“隐形人”的感觉。当你相信自己的存在有意义时，你会更自信地与世界互动，而这种正向的能量本身就是对周围人最好的礼物。
Cheoni
2026-01-25
想起了去年看的一本The Power of When！ 虽然书里对chronotypes的划分我觉得还是缺乏统计学基础的一种叙事包装，但是chronobiology的视角和模板很值得借鉴来自我观察，尤其对脱离了强外部限制（课程表、出勤打卡等）的自由工作者来说如何平衡bio-timing和social schedule感觉很有启发
limboy
2026-01-26
第一次听说这本书，有空去看下。这里比较难的我觉得是自我观察，尤其是注意到身体的状态和内在诉求。我现在主要是从能量的角度出发，在能量高点（对我来说是早上）把重要的事情先做了。
我早起的诀窍还蛮简单的，晚上把窗帘拉开（纱帘拉上），让阳光把自己叫醒···
Cheoni
2026-01-26
是的就是自我观察的思路！ 这本书算是从生物学的视角引出一些观察时除了“感觉”以外更具体甚至可量化的指标，身体节律语言的翻译指南的感觉hhh